Personal Actions

1. Use correct names and pronouns (and when you mess up, just say “oops,” correct yourself, and move on.)

2. Interrupt harmful, dehumanizing language in yourself and others. Be an upstander.

3. Listen without correcting someone’s lived experience.

4. Believe trans youth. Full stop.

5. Apologize when you mess up.

 

Community Actions

1. Advocate in schools for drag queen story time & books with trans characters.

2. Support inclusive policies in local government and your place of employment.

3. Show up to school board meetings and center trans kids’ needs in educational settings.

4. Celebrate Pride all year round.

5. Fund youth programs like Youthseen and Camp Indigo, where trans kids can be themselves full out with their peers.

 

Faith Communities

1. Preach not just inclusion–solidarity– from the pulpit.

2. Offer affirming pastoral care that centers transgender children, not just include them.

3. Train leaders to respond to the needs of trans children and navigate pushback.

4. Host workshops that create awareness and deeper empathy with trans folx.

5. Publicly affirm trans youth in your congregation and beyond.

 

Political / Civic

1. Ask your elected representatives to support transgender youth in every vote they cast.

2. Oppose harmful legislation to transgender human beings of all ages.

3. Support advocacy orgs nationally and locally, like ONE Colorado, Bread & Roses Law, Trans Rescue Network, and the LGBTQ+ Bar Association.

4. Volunteer at the trans-affirming organization of your choice.

5. Vote in alignment with the dignity and humanity of transgender folx. 

 

Financial Support

1. Donate to organizations that support transgender individuals. 

2. Pay trans speakers well and invite them to speak often.

3. Sponsor trans-centered events.

4. Fund mutual aid for transgender folx who need food, housing, medical care, & clothing.

5. Support trans-owned businesses. 

 

Relational Support

1. Check in regularly with your transgender beloveds.

2. Celebrate milestones with them (birthdays, anniversaries of puberty blocker or name change, etc.)

3. Respect their boundaries.

4. Offer rides / logistics help to trans folx in need. (Don’t wait to be asked–offer!)

5. Be consistent and show up as a dependable relationship in their life. 

 

Education

1. Learn terminology, and when you mess up, fix it fast and move on without centering your feelings. 

2. Read trans authors and books about trans characters.

3. Attend workshops that help you learn the things you don’t know without adding the weight of education to your transgender loved ones. 

4. Unlearn biases and choose everyday to recommitment to being an accomplice.

5. Stay updated– follow and pay a subscription to Erin In The Morning on Substack for the most up-to-date info about trans legal rights.

 

Online 

1. Don’t share harmful, transphobic content.

2. Amplify trans voices always.

3. Report harassment if witnessed. 

4. Avoid debating identities. Loving trans folx doesn’t require understanding, just empathy.

5. Protect privacy and check with trans people you know IRL if they’re out in all spaces.

 

Parenting / Caregiving

1. Advocate for your transgender child fiercely. 

2. Find affirming providers and do your research before the appointment.

3. Connect with other parents of trans kiddos. Camp Indigo has a wonderful community of supportive, queer, and progressive parents of trans kids.

4. Protect your child’s mental health and remind them that their identity is a blessing, not a burden.

5. Create an affirming space at home that serves as a sanctuary where your child can be their full, unedited self. 

 

Systems Change

1. Push for more workplace inclusion and lift up companies who are still committed to their Justice, Equity, Diversity, and Belonging programs. 

2. Advocate for gender-affirming healthcare.

3. Support gender-affirming practices in educational, political, and faith-based systems.

4. Fund research for transgender care.

5. Build coalitions across your community to respond in real time to emerging needs.

 

Cultural Support

1. Share stories responsibly and consensually.

2. Create art with and by trans artists.

3. Normalize joy. Celebrate every win communally and lift up fulfillment amidst the struggle.

4. Celebrate trans leaders everywhere, all the time.

5. Stay engaged long-term and show up at rallies, hospitals, schools, and press conferences when asked. This is not a moment– it’s a movement. 

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